This is a man’s world….or…after all he’s just a man?

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What's all the fuss about?

November 19th 2016 celebrated another International Men’s Day. Inaugurated in 1999, this day is celebrated in over 80 countries including the UK. But you might be thinking…"What’s the fuss all about?” After all this is a man’s world, ruled by men for the benefit of men. But is this the story for ALL men?


November 17th witnessed a House of Commons Parliamentary Debate in advance of International Men’s Day. But it was much less about celebrating men and much more about asking hard questions as to why men were finding it so hard to survive…and there’s good reasons to ask these questions – because in this so called patriarchal society, the benefits of being a man in today’s world are not so easily straight forward to highlight.


To be frank, there is a need for a proper fuss when it comes down to men in modern day UK and here’s why…..


The high male suicide rate – The suicide rate amongst men in the UK is over three times higher than women. This gap has increased since 1981, when the male rate was just less than double the female rate. Since 1981, the female rate has reduced by around 50%, while the male rate has decreased by 14%


When asked, what steps the Government plans to take to improve suicide prevention policies in response to the statistics, this was their response…


The Government has invested over £1.5 million on suicide and self-harm prevention research since the National Suicide Prevention Strategy to inform and target our strategy for reducing suicide rates.


But this is surely a drop in the ocean compared to the magnitude of the challenge at hand. 4630 UK men took their own lives in 2014 (this being the most recent data available regarding UK statistics). Each suicide attempt has an immeasurable emotional cost on family, friends and the wider community. But let's be brutal…from a "typical man's" view, let's look at the pounds, shillings and pence – the economic cost. The estimated cost for each death by suicide is £1.6 million pounds – it therefore begs belief as to why an investment of £1.5 million in research over a 3 year period is somehow proportionate to the magnitude of the issue at hand.


No more questions…Lets do the do that need's to be done.


The other question we must ask is whether this amount of investment in research is money well spent. I'm not saying that research isn't important, but what I am saying is that at some juncture we need to draw a line in the sand…stop asking "what do we think?" and start asking "what do we need to do based on what we know?"

The answers, I believe, were staring the parliamentarians in the face today as the rest of the debate regarding men and their situation gave clear statements as to what specific wider issues in society need to be addressed if we are to tackle suicide amongst men.

The areas discussed, that made grim reading, covered the following…

The challenges faced by boys and men at all stages of education including attainment


Men’s health, shorter life expectancy and workplace deaths


The challenges faced by the most marginalised men and boys in society (for instance, homeless men, boys in care and the high rate of male deaths in custody)


Male victims of violence, including sexual violence


The challenges faced by men as parents, particularly new fathers and separated fathers


Male victims and survivors of sexual abuse, rape, sexual exploitation, domestic abuse, forced marriage, honour-based crime, stalking and slavery


The negative portrayal of men, boys and fathers


Now, it is true that men aren’t as likely as women to engage with universal services regarding their health, it is true that many men don’t seek support from their peers nor do they talk openly about their problems and it is true that men often see strength in silence whereas the real strength would be to ask for help – but this does not mean that we should lay the blame at the feet of men – not all men anyway. The challenge is bigger than most of us would like to admit. Individual blame is too short-sighted – we need to look at ourselves and our taken for granted assumptions as to who men are. To me, it appears that the silent majority has been overlooked – and no one is responsible for this oversight, unless we do nothing about it.


But then again, what do we care? After all, this is a patriarchal society, what have we men got to complain about?


Programmes including ManMade, ManKind, Calm, SurvivorsUK may provide you with some of the answers.


To get your copy of the full parliamentary report go to


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