Make the connection
Forward For Life is not a crisis site but we understand that people come to this site for many reasons including seeking help because of their own suicidal thoughts, or because of concerns of another person and worries for them.
We know it seems a big ask
If you are reading this because you are having suicidal thoughts, try to ask someone for help.
We understand that it may be difficult, but it’s important to know you are not beyond help and you are not alone.
Talking to someone can help you see beyond feelings of loneliness or despair and help you realise there are options. There are people who want to talk to you and who want to help. Try talking to a family member or friend about how you are feeling.
If for or any reason you don’t feel able to talk to a family member or friend, then make an urgent visit to your GP or go to A&E. You must hold on to the fact that people do get through this.
Worried for others?
If you are worried that someone is suicidal, ask them. It could save their life.
Most people thinking about suicide will try to let someone know but it’s not always by word of mouth but is often more subtle. The key to helping is watching out for the warning signs and knowing what to do to help.
There are a range of signs to watch out for and remember everyone is different so if you are concerned, the best thing you can do is be there to listen.
Someone you know may be at risk of suicide if they:
- appear stressed, anxious or depressed
- don’t seem to be coping with any problems they may have
- are distracted, moody or withdrawn
- show marked changes in their eating, sleeping or drinking habits.
What you can do
- take all signs of distress seriously, even if the person seems to be living a normal life
- ask the person about what’s troubling them
- listen carefully to what they have to say
- let them know you care
- If it feels right, ask if they are thinking about suicide. It won’t put the thought in their head if it wasn’t there before, but it can be a big relief for them to be able to say, ‘Yes, I am’ and acknowledge they need help.
Available 24 hours a day, Samaritans provides confidential emotional support for people who are experiencing feelings of distress, despair or suicidal thoughts and you can call them on 116 123. If you prefer, you can email Samaritans at firstname.lastname@example.org